I would love my H to do as GH31 did, and mean it. For him, it would feel like a fake.
For heavens sake please, please, please get him to read that book. The way I look at it is this... my goal is to have a woman who is literally thrilled to be my wife.
The fact that no fantasy/affair is in progress anymore would mean if your husband were to do this stuff you would literally want to jump his bones and you would be thinking about what took place for the rest of the day. I cannot for the life of me understand why any man wouldn't want his wife to experience this on a regular basis.
I'll share something else with you which may be a little graphic. In March I did a similar thing with my W and ended up making love to her 4 times before going to work - in fact I ended up being about 1� hours late for work. Hours later I sent my W a text which said I just imagined running my tongue up the inside of your thigh, did you feel it? to which she replied that she was still feeling the effects of this morning and bemoaned my taking advantage of her but she was quite happy about it.
This has worked on my wife even whilst a full-blown addictive EA fantasy has been in progress. You guys don't have any EA/PA to deal with anymore. Please have a read together - it's written in a language that us blokes can readily understand.
It's not just about alpha male behaviour. It goes into detail about the natural ways men and women differ in their communication styles - i.e. why you might feel that you've been trying to tell your husband things for years and why he hasn't "got it". It will show your H how to "read" you - my W still complements me on how well I understand and "get" her ... which is what's so perplexing about my situation but that's another story.
In spite of our marriage being torn apart by my verbal abuse, anger and selfishness and W's subsequent EA/PA, our sex life has always been great in the ten years we've been together, and I wish I could tell your husband exactly why that is because I know.
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
