3 years of S, OW gone - What do I want?

[peacetoday]

SH
I think I understand what you are saying and you dont have to give up totally
all this work was for a purpose
we changed- we grew- we became stronger- wiser- more loving
the door can always be open a little
even if we are actively moving on
so
listen to the struggle and the answers will come
you are intuitve and wise
you will know what to do

I have this friend..we all hung out together with H
her H mother dies(he was 40) then
he started using drugs/drinkling
he lost job and lost everything
she D him and had NC for 2 years
he wanted contact she said NO b/c he was drinking
she got a job and raised 2 boys with no financial help from Him
he got sober..hes now coming around connecting with the kids
and showing desire to be with her
she did no DB no reading nothing
hes coming back
basically she did nothing except detach and move her life forward
I knew him and I believe he went into MLC started drinking to help pain
so my point is
he came back or is trying to now
she did nothing except D him and let go
he is now the one doing all the work to restore R with kids and her
I am happy for her--I dont see my Xh ever doing this kind of work
but I never thought hers would either
peace