Hey SUNNY!!!!! Missed you girl!!! Hope you are ok... (Sorry SP, Sunny is one of my dearests!!)
Dating: Are we discussing if a separated/single person should go ahead and date, granted he/she feels like it, or questioning the reasons/motives SP (or anyone in his shoes for that matter) has to start dating? Or are we even discussing when a M is pronounced dead? Or when are we legally divorced? Or legally married?
I am all FOR dating when the person feels like it (assuming the M is done=emotionally divorced in my book, technicalities dont mean much to me). Sure there is a chance that the new dynamics bring back the interest in WASs heart and that is a risk (or a chance depending on your POV). I speak from experience and some of you know that although my H still says "he never thought of me with someone else, that thought seems ridiculous to him - he is up for a surpise!!), since I NEVER used that in any way for reasons that are close to my heart and my morals.
What happens then (assuming a reaction takes place), is a whole new "game". Dating to just fill the void, revenge, hurt etc etc the WAS usually backfires IMO and makes the void feel even worse.
SP, I told you before, I suggest you calm down a bit, cool off, wind down or however you Americans call it. You are running on adrenaline or so it seems to me ( I could be too slow instead of you being too "fast", cant tell). K
