Don't worry about "bogging everyone down" with your concerns. That is why we are here--to share each other's burdens.
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She has to start being responsible as a mother too don't you think?
Yes, but that would be expecting her to be responsible "if" she was a normal person. I don't think she is normal in the sense of emotions. It has me very concerned. She has so much hatred in her and that is one reason she is taking you to the cleaners by way of "debt". She thinks if she can ruin you that way, then she'll do it. I am afraid that she is in for many, many bad years ahead, and anyone she hooks up with will suffer at her hands.
I talked to a LBH yesterday about his lack of detachment with his WAW b/c he said he was doing "what Jesus would do". Many people have the wrong concept about that and about Christians letting others walk all over them. So, don't think that you standing up to your W would not be acting like a Christian. Men are taught to have respect and if a W won't willingly give it, then a man has to "man-up" and stand up to that W. Not a pleasant task, but needs to be done. Of course, nothing physical involved.
She is a woman with lots of problems and I think the sooner you can get your little girl away from her and get her out of your life, the much better both of you will be. I think she is dangerous.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
