I was almost thinking that her response about the L was a defensive mechanism. Like I was getting too close to her inner self, so she lashed out with a threat. I flipped it around by telling her that she's gotten everything she wanted and that she should figure out why she's so angry. That was more for her to fix herself rather than me taking what she was dishing.
I had read a response that a woman had written on a midlife crisis forum elsewhere that she was glad that even though she wanted to leave, her H told her "Whether you want to leave or stay is your decision, however I am asking you to stay." so she understood that ultimately it is her responsibility and decision to leave but the door was open for her to stay. I wrote those exact words to her the day she talked about the L.
I guess it's like when your H told your D that he couldn't make you love him.
Right now I'm just cautiously optimistic.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
