Originally Posted By: healthydad
It does shock me that she can get that way around A - she followed it up yesterday with the most ridiculous email - pretending to apologize for her outburst - but accusing me of "trying to pick a fight"...

...I was pleased to see, however, that her rage and insults did not affect my mood at all - nor did I even get upset or feel any anger - it was just a feeling of disgust...

...And so it goes, though...and so it goes...


Carlos,

Parsed your post a little bit above by the parts that struck me the most...

Funny you should be posting on my thread noting similarities when I was struck the same way reading these sentences...

The first is what I call "the pot calling the kettle black" syndrome and I've observed it more and more where (and I know I contributed to the "dance", too) an inflammatory statement is declared and yet it is I who is picking the fight?!? WTF?

Your second comment above makes me wonder how long it truly takes to be fully detached and the steps/emotions that have to be crossed. Does one have to pass through disgust in order to get from anger to true detachment? In order to be truly detached must one be ambivalent, in which case disgust wouold imply that detachment hasn't been achieved...

That seems like nonsense, but in the context of DBing and the goal of detachment, should we be having any feelings beyond ambivalence?

It's not an important question on a day-to-day basis, but just popped into mind as I read your post.

-AlexEN


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