So they have a "new toy" which is exciting to play with. And they're discovering their "old toy" is fun to play with too.
When a person has the comfort of being able to make a choice and isn't forced to make a choice immediately, what would motivate the WAS to make a choice at all?
Exactly. Which is why so many on these forums are "stuck." That's why I don't believe in "trying to 'win back' a wayward spouse." It's emasculating, and it flies in the face of human nature, which says that people don't do anything until they have to (path of least resistance).
GAL, work on yourself, and completely drop the rope. Or, as someone else posted recently (I think it was Sandi), they're starting to advise just about EVERYONE to go directly to the LRT.
