Sounds like your getting the idea.....

The faster you learn to focus on yourself and let him go to fix himself, the better off you will be.

It takes time....tons of it. Be patient with him and yourself as well.

Read and learn...your gonna make mistakes, your talking to a guy who has made just about every possible one at one time or another.

Learn from them.....They are only negative when you make the same ones over and over again.

Keep reading, keep posting, and keep learning.

Don't stand still.