RE: moments of nastiness... they're actually becoming a little less frequent. In accordance w/my GOALS, I'm not pushing, and working on letting him make some decisions...
HOWEVER, I'm done w/the snarkiness.
And, I believe the way I've chosen to deal with it is working (slowly, but working). Example: Our cable box goes out over the weekend. H wakes up Monday am (@ around 11) after I've been up since 7am, cleaning up after the weekend of chaos, doing laundry, getting kids to soccer camp, etc... blahblahblah and emerges from our bedroom, without a greeting, and, asks (in the snarkiest of snarky tones), "Why haven't you called the cable company yet?" (grumblegrumblesnarksnark) And, I tell him, "Well, H, I had to make a choice. Call the cable company, and work on this on the phone with them in our room, and risk waking creating a grumphy H/Dad, OR I could let you sleep in, enjoy your rested mood upon waking on your own, and call them after you awake."
He grumbled back to our room, took a shower, came into my room, a ray of sunshine.
Normally, I would have apologized, and kind of folded.
He reacts better to the borderline snark replies.
So, we'll go with this for awhile.
PS - I am normally not a snarky person. But, I can sure pull it off if I need to!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
