Well - just his symptoms. The changes in him - I read Pat Gaudette's "How to Survive Your Husband's Midlife Crisis," and he was like a textbook case out of that book; I couldn't believe what I was reading, it was so much like what is described in that book. I also talked to a former friend of his, who went through the exact same thing, but he has snapped out of his midlife crisis - they're the same age (42), were going through "burnout" from enormous stress at work. He said, when you throw another woman into this mix it's impossible to get through to you. It wouldn't have mattered what anyone said to him, he wouldn't have listened. There is nothing to do except wait until he snaps out of it - which of course may never happen. In the meantime, I have to survive! The pain from this is literally eating my insides (I have lost so much weight, my size zero jeans are starting to hang on me).
"Adultery is not about sex or romance. Ultimately, it is about how little we mean to one another." Leonard Michaels
