First Timer

[wolverine1997]

Basically, I am doing the same thing. My wife intentionally ignores me. She comes into the house and will not speak. She will leave and not tell me that she is leaving or where she is going. She will only call me if it is related to the kids or bills, etc. I continue to speak to her when she or I come home, the same as I would to anyone one else. But after speaking I don't try to engage her in conversation.

I have begun doing more things around the house that she would normally do, like decorating. At first I tried to get her involved in such activities hoping that it would draw us closer. She has stopped showing interest in taking care of the house. That used to be her passion. So I decided to do things on my own. I bought new furniture for the family room, changed the furniture around and such. Today I am installing new window treatments in the living, dining and family rooms (I can't believe I even use the words window treatments, six months ago I didn't even know the term existed).

I planned two vacations for me and the kids and did not invite her. I told her about the plans but did not include her. She is welcome to come at her own expense if she wants, but I know that she can't afford it. I think she is happy with me not speaking to her. But I can honestly say that by me not speaking I am doing a 180 and no longer pursuing her. Also, I have worked hard to GAL.