It is difficult at times to choose the right tool for the job, so to speak. I like a lot of the Love Dare concepts, but it does fly in the face of the DB rules.... At times, almost polar opposite advice from each other.
My DB counselor often advises me to try something different that I haven't tried before, and then monitor the results. I know I still catch myself doing some pursuing behavior at times, as slight or as innocent as it may be (to me anyway). I don't know that the Love Dare would be a good thing for me to use right now. Maybe it would have been a year ago...
I did call her (W) yesterday morning to tell her I had a great weekend with the girls (C said to try it, if I haven't been doing it before -another 180), and I thanked her for always having them dressed nice, looking nice, and always ready to go with me. She seemed receptive to the compliments (she has been lately) and I wished her a great day as the weather was perfect, and they were all going to the zoo. Last night the kids called me, and then W got on the phone and talked to me for 10 minutes or more - very friendly, and she sounded upbeat and happy. Gotta keep that happiness going!
Me: 46 W: 46 M: 9.5 yrs D4, D9 D filed by her 11/3/08 Agrees to try rec at mediation 1/28/09 Says she still wants D in counseling 3/25/09 W and I back in DB counseling (!) 8/20/09 3rd Bomb 9/2/09
