Over the Shock and GALing 6

[AlexEN]

Thinker,

If you're not already familiar with it, you may want to take a look at a book by Harville Hendrix called Getting the Love you Want... It looks at the very issues about which you've been thinkin'... It's a fascinating book and talks a lot about his theories about how we and our mate choose each other (and how it ties back to FOO issues similar to the ones you describe). It's a book I want to re-read.

-AlexEn