Cheaters?

[AlexEN]

Clark,

You appear to be equating "holding the walkaway accountable" with "bitterness." I agree that sometimes that's the case, but it isn't ALWAYS the case.

It's possible to fully hold them accountable, as adults who made a marriage vow (contract), and not hold bitterness in one's heart toward them...

Puppy

PDT/Clark,

I think it is possible to do both, too...

In my sitch, I hold W accountable for her affair(s) (but take my share of accountability for an R that made her vulnerable to an affair).

But today, I do have bitterness toward her NOT with respect to the affairs, but with respect to how she is handling her end of the "deal" with respect to how we agreed to have the D-Bomb discussion with the kids.

-AlexEN