Thanks Guys, it really helped to talk through my parent issue. I guess with the I should just listen and let them vent if needs be but offer constructive stuff not blame, like my older sister and brother! It is always my instinct to fix! Thanks all for sharing with me, it really really helped and reassured me and I did a fair bit of processing it over the weekend.
I'm not so sure on the internet dating thing, it felt a bit weird for me so I might leave that for a while but not rule it out for the future. Maybe a handsome stranger will ride round the wild woods of north London and stroll upon me one day
I had a really fun weekend. I visited my eldest sister and nephews and they had a summer fete on and a re-enactment of a battle by the American Civil War Society. It was all very dramatic! Then a 4th July bbq at my friends in the evening. So a themed day lol. Then yesterday I went to see Take That and am totally in love with them all - they are so handsome. It was an AMAZING show.
I sent H a text last night wishing him good luck on his first day at his new job and saying I was at Take That. He replied almost straight back, which is unusual, saying how excited he was and how he loved the new Take That and some stuff about the house - why does he always throw that in! I didn't reply as I was too busy drooling over Gary Barlow
An uplifting song for a rainy Monday morning Shine ...
Hey Julia, Sounds like you had a loverly weekend. The re-enactment sounds exciting. XH & I saw one many years ago of the Civil War.
Ah, don't worry about the H & the house, again, he truly doesn't know how you feel. Or he does & doesn't want to go there. Good that you just blew it off & enjoyed the rest of your night!
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
I think your friend is only reading her disappointment into your situation.
Same here.
We all do that. DB-ers who have saved their marriages will cheer you on. Those who haven't, will wonder why they tried so hard only to "fail" and, in turn, advise you to move on with your life and not drag things on so long.
Make sense?
You are a lovely, intelligent, sweet and attractive woman. Believe that, and, perhaps, the power will shift back to you in the situation.
I'm one who 'saved' my R (I dont think thats possible actaully, if they really love you and are meant to be with you, they will work through THEIR issues and come back of their own accord, as long as the door is still open for them)...but I actually did kind of gently ask Julia if it was wise to hang on for her H any longer, seeing as he had appeared to not be expressing any regret, or unhappiness since moving in with OW. BUT.. Julia seems to be moving forwards whilst leaving the door open, and that seems pretty healthy to me, especially as it wasnt that long ago they were walking down the aisle. Its all just part of a long, natural process hey, but lovingly detaching and valueing yourself again seems to be key though, I agree.
Julia, I was never a big Take That fan, but I think they are possibly the loveliest men in pop and Gary Barlow has an amazing voice. He was so humble on radio 1 this morning about it all too! Did you hear him?
Great that your H responded so fast to your text, who'd have thought it hey? Good you didnt reply too !!! xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I'm so glad Take That were great! Gary is such a gentleman and a really good guy- my old boss lives next door to him and speaks very highly of him. I'm still working on getting an invitation to their next party so I can have Garry sing a Million Love Songs to me
I also wanted to say that I know people post advice on your thread about what to do, but I also know you're strong-minded enough to be able to steer your own path and decide what actions to take. Only you can decide what's right for you and I think you're self-aware enough to know the best thing for your own sitch.
Good god Lisa, you're kidding!?? That would be so cool. My cousin lives next door to Amanda Holden in London, but somehow, I dont fancy wangling an invite to his place just to meet her !!!
Julia, out of interest, I forgot to ask.. what was it your H was asking you about houses??
(((MsM))) Yeah, they were my thoughts about h, that is why I just got on with it. He can be a DAM sometimes!
(((theoden))) thank you for your sweet words. I understand what you are saying. I had a wobble when my h left and lost my confidence but I feel like I am really getting it back again and learning a lot along the way.
(((Al))) Yeah, TT were really humble on stage too. I heard G on Chris Moyles this morning, although Chris Moyles really annoys me, and he was so sweet. H just added onto his text that the solicitor wrote and told us how much profit we would get from the house. The S didn't used to write to me to but does now, I don't think h realises that so I think he was trying to be helpful and keep me informed.
(((Lisa))) AAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can we do some stalking?? lol! I can't believe that, how exciting! Thank you for your confidence in me. DB Grandma indeed! My claim to celeb fame is that I grew up living next door to Lynda Bellingham (of oxo adverts and Loose Women fame). I used to play round there all the time - she even used to bath me! We must catch up... I'll drop you an email.
