My situation #10

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Hi there WT. Thanks for coming by. Sailing was good. We had great weather but the wind was a bit weak. We actually did two races with about 10 sailboats on the Hudson River. My friend belongs to a boating club and they race every Sunday. It was my first time sailing and it was a bit more work than I had imagined. We spent about 5 hours on the water and when we finished I was ready for some relaxing.

You're definitely right about having to reset my 'normal' setpoint. I'm still in the house now but having it all to myself for the weekend gave me a taste of when I won't have the kids every other weekend. I really did miss them quite a bit.

They came home yesterday and all I did was play with them until they went to bed. It was great.

My W has been pretty decent the past couple of weeks - last night she came in and started to tell me there were a few bills that were overdue. I mentioned I was waiting till she put her check into the account and then she started to make a comment how it was in there before the weekend....so I noticed this was one of the round about start ups to a conversation - I stopped her and said, "So what's your point?" I said that because I wanted to go directly into what she was wanting to say - we spent our whole relationship with this kind of round about way of getting to a point and I've realized it's not a healthy way to deal with stuff. It's something I'm trying to change so I don't have this kind of communication with people in general - or in a R.

Then she said we need a system to pay the bills. I commented we used to have a system. (Meaning until she decided to open up her own account and stop dropping the money into our joint account directly)

A little while later she came into my room and said, "I should have just asked you to pay the bills before we left for the weekend." I told her I would take care of it and pay them now.

She actually came in and sat on the bed as I was writing out the checks and we talked about different things - small talk. This is something we haven't done much of in the past weeks.

So that's a basic update.