Yay!!!!! Finally a new thread.

[MrBond]

You're "dragging this out" because you love him and are honoring your commitment to the M. Period.

Many of our WASs accuse us of "holding them back" or telling us to "let them go". What they are instead saying is "hey, I need your approval to show that you approve of me treating you like sh*t so this stupid conscience of mine stops bothering me."

Like I told my W when she got angry at me last week, I told her that she was getting everything she wanted yet was still getting mad. I told her if she was so unhappy, to just leave. And I really didn't care one way or the other.

Plus I think you're showing your kids a great example of doing the right thing.

I think it's a crock when people say they are divorcing and they are doing it for the kids so they don't see them unhappy. And how they would do anything for their kids.

What a pile of sh*t. If they really cared for their kids, they wouldn't be sleeping around with someone else. If they really cared for their kids, they would stop complaining about how THEY are unhappy and get some frickin' help to work the M out. And if they REALLY cared for their kids, they would stop treating the LBS like crap everytime they saw them.

Your H is doing the same. He's teaching your kids that it's okay to treat mommy like dirt because after all, daddy was unhappy.