Well as Michele would say. If something doesn't work, do something different.
Have you thought of packing all of her things up and kicking her out? You have to jolt her to get your self-respect back from her. I mean, especially in your LONG sex goal, it sounds like a dog looking to get approval from it's master.
If she has OM, then that pretty much decided everything. She doesn't want what she doesn't respect.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.