For cryin' out loud, I missed this conversation due to lack of internet access!!!
Anyway, saw this earlier and didn't have time to respond...finally-
Originally Posted By: SmileysPerson
Technically I am not still married. I am legally separated. It is a different status at law and in the eyes of society writ large.
I do not hold myself out to the community as a married man; Herself does not hold herself out to the community as a married woman -- indeed, she publicly and openly holds herself out, by her own admission, as a single woman.
We did in fact run into each other this a.m. during the kid exchange and she was dressed to the nines, with more cleavage on display than I'd ever seen. And when I said, "Wow. Must be a hot date today," she blushed redder than red and tossed her hair which, in the body language of Herself, always = Totally Busted.
She will talk about this date with all of her friends -- that is her way. She will talk it up beforehand and dissect it after. She has announced to all the world -- even to me -- her desperate, desperate desire for sex with a new man.
So I have no "wife" in the eyes of the public, and since I have no gods I have no marriage in the eyes of them, either.
The only "I'm still married" argument I could make would be one based purely on will -- I WILL consider myself married until I'm not.
But in every practical sense of the term, except for the rapping of the judge's gavel, I am not married. So I can hardly be "stepping out" on my wife. As there is no woman in the world at this time who claims that title.
SP- come on now. She has your number. The cleavage was for you, you *?!#. Dressed "to the nines" in the morning when she knew she was likely to run into you??? The blushing when you made your inane (and I CAN'T believe you said that) comment about her "hot date" (that actual reminds me of Shmedlap, yikes)...guess what we do when we look really great, want it noticed, it gets noticed and then are on the spot over the date we DON't actually have...you don't have to guess because she already showed you.
Forget about your willy for five minutes and take a chance on manning up with your W...if you accept that challenge.
You know, reading this scares me into thinking that my H is actually thick enough to believe that my coincidentally looking hot EVERY time he sees me is for someone else when it is for HIM (I mean ME, yeah right ).
And then you go on to mind read and project about some imaginary conversation with her friends and blah blah blah.
Come on SP...all that mojo and she just mopped the floor with you.
I don't know about the whole friends with benefits deal you've got going with your lady friend(s)...if it works for you. However, after how many 10s of years ML to one woman, you think there is nothing significant about crossing that threshold with another woman? You know what you're doing.
Sometimes both partners dating and having sex with others sort of evens the score so I'm not sure it is that consequential as for as impacting your potential reconciliation. I DO think it is possibly disingenuous to try to play it off as no biggie (probably why it has inspired so much conversation here).
Anyway, as for the REASON you came here. Work that mojo...you're missing some major moments.
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