I think she may be taking it harder than she did when we had the breakup talk. She has texted me that I was a mean man to have caused her to be lonely again. And she says that she has lost 3 pounds in 5 days since I "dropped the bomb". I have let her know that I am available any time to talk and she can take it out on me.
We did go see the fireworks together on the 4th with some of her family and we had a good time. She wants me to take her and some others cherry picking next weekend.
Hey dday -
One very obvious sign that a woman is not a virgin is if they have kids.
I have talked with the X a couple times now in Thailand. S8 has been sleeping with grandma and D6 sleeps with her girl cousin who is about the same age. I sure would like to see the communication methods those 2 girls are attempting with each other - I think Barbie doll talk is maybe universal.
They are now visiting the prostitution capital of the world (Pattaya). One does not need to wonder how X is perceived when walking the streets in the arms of an old man. At least when I was there with her she was pregnant and worried what others might think when they saw me with her. Her brother and I just joked that surely they would think she was a pregnant prostitute.
I also remember when I was there that I saw a fat old man walking down the street holding hands with what looked like a 12-14 year old boy. It took a lot for me to not unload my fists of fury on that sick demented creep.
Eww...that is so wrong! (The young boy/old man thing...)
Sorry that ex-gf isn't as 'okay' with things as she first led on...
Must be wonderful to get to go to Hawaii! That is on my list of places to visit some time in my life. Everyone I know who has been there tells me how beautiful it is.
Ironically, my first thread here had the word "Hang Loose" as part of the title. I had not been back long from Hawaii before finding my marriage in turmoil.
You definitely should go to one or more of the islands some time soon BobbiJo. There are some beautiful tropical golf courses just waiting to be hacked up.
One very obvious sign that a woman is not a virgin is if they have kids.
haha, good one. Although care to explain imaculate conception?
Anyway, let the GF go, why let her beat you up? I finally came to see more complications with person I was starting to associate as a GF and realized the situation was side-lining my efforts to recover from XW's A and the D. Now, I feel great and for once in a couple of years I actually said to myself in the mirror this morning, hey, life is good.
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Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
I am now leaning strongly towards telling her that it is best to not come on the trip as John, Dance Queen, and Kathleen have suggested.
I have positioned myself into a corner by trying to be nice. She has started bringing up not so nice talk about my daughter's behavior. She said that now that we are just friend, she can say what is on her mind.
And the thing with the brother coming along looks like it is on again so as to appease the parents.
Hey Kerry, you are a hell of a nice guy. However, to bring her along with her brother? I would need to find another adjective to describe that decision....Having said that, I trust your judgement as it has always been sound in my opinion. How long are your kids gone for? It must be very difficult to have them gone and so far away. Are you playing any golf with all this free time on your hands?
