I am so sorry about what is happening. I was hoping for you that your H would come back home. I guess you are doing the right thing since you need to be happy again and your H just cannot give what you want and deserve at the moment.
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I don't expect anyone to understand, but this is a man that I ml to for 15 years and he has been the one man that got it right, so sorry that is hard to give that up knowing that it might never be again with anyone.
I do understand you very well! Take care. (((HUGS)))
I'm right here beside ya', honey, with letting it all go. In a way, I think maybe I have it easier because my H cut the ties pretty decisively when he finally did it.....didn't keep up intimacy and such for 3 years.
It's funny, but I always considered you were one of "the lucky ones" whose H just at least seemed to continue to give something to the R. Now, I'm actually sorta thankful that my H didn't do that, because I, like you, would have seen that as "a chance" and would have held on for all I was worth.
And, Glam, I personally think that you have yet to have the best sex of your life! I say that because I know that your H did not respect you as you so richly deserve, and without that you have only "technique". And "technique" can be taught! When you finally find the man who is destined for you (and I believe you will!) and have that true emotional bond that your H could never really reciprocate because he didn't have that ability (at least not yet)......well, I think you will be amazed at how much more satisfying ml will be, and you will wonder how you thought that things were so "great" with your H.
I can say that because I believe it for myself too. My H and I were very "compatible" in that area, and had a joke that if things outside the bedroom were as good as inside the bedroom, life would have been Utopia! That was something that was very hard for me to let go of too. But, I am trying to keep in mind that if it was that good with someone who had issues with "real intimacy", how much better will it be with someone who really truly loves me!
Hang in there, my friend!!
((((((((((hugs))))))))))
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
Thanks all. Forward I like that "firm but friendly". That will be my new motto. That makes sense to me. Life is about to get strange.
Don't expect h until Wed, now for months and months and probably over a year, I would make dinner for h and the kids and we would eat as a family when he would come over. Now that will need to be done. Can't really see that continuing.
Thanks SC I do hope that you are right, but for now I am just at peace knowing that the wait and unknown is finally over.
Trying not to think much about anything these days. Life is what it is.
I only wish that my h could have woke up and got it, but oh well he was not the sharpest tool in the shed.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
......Thanks SC I do hope that you are right, but for now I am just at peace knowing that the wait and unknown is finally over.
Of course! I wasn't talking about going out and jumping into bed with somebody right away [Get your mind outta the gutter, Glam!! ] I was only saying to be careful and not to fall into the trap of what I fondly refer to as "Future F**king"! Ya know, as in making un-based assumptions about what is going to happen....... Although in this case, I guess that phrase would apply literally too!
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
Gee SC you are dissappointing me, not jumping into bed with somebody right away.......why not? Just kidding. It does sound so tempting though. Do you know of anyone I could hook up with?
All I can say is life goes on and I am sure my life will get better.
Oh too funny, D5 just said "A girls got to do what a girls got to do". She's got that right! Oh she makes my life so worth it.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"