Cinco - if only I had a dollar for every time someone has said they should have listend to me...oh wait, that's ME who should have listened to me and didn't! LOL! But seriously, its so much easier to see what someone else should do, than to actually do it ourselves.
All I can say is I'm so dang happy. I will be standing by, waiting for great updates.
The only tiny warning I will say, is that there is still a lot of work ahead for both of you. Right now, you are both experiencing what is called "hysterical bonding". There is a danger to this, because many couples who are on the brink of breaking up, then have some change of heart or events at the eleventh hour and reconcile, go through this "hysterical bonding" and during it, they get the high and rush you feel when you first fall in love. The couple then thinks that magically their problems have been fixed and this rush will stay with them forever. Then the couple doesn't follow through with all the hard work that needs to be done. Soon enough, they fall back to their old habits and are on the brink of breaking up again. In fact, I think you and Mrs. Cinco have been at this place before in the past, no? You are so happy to have averted the disaster of breaking up, that your happiness can cause you to overlook the fact that there is still years of work to be done. You can recall this from the last separation, right?
So anyway...all I am saying is that you should enjoy every moment of your current happiness, but keep in mind all the time, that the past cannot be erased by this happiness, and that all the same hard work will still need to be done. Also realize that some of it will not be pleasant. In the near future, you and Mrs. C may not feel this rush and high of happiness, and you may instead feel a lot of pain and frustration as you pull lots of your crud out of bags you hid under the bed and such. So lean on that happiness now, but be prepared! Don't let it surprise you when the crud takes back over for a bit.
BUT THEN....after the hard work...you will get to have bliss and happiness, TRUE bliss and happiness, forever, with your chosen partner! Sooooo worth the price you will have to pay, I promise.
I'm so happy for you...so so happy. But make sure you both realize, it will take another year or so of recovery. But that's nothing in the scheme of things, right?
