I invited H to D9's art exhibit today. They exhibited at the local art museum the best work of the kids that went to art camp this summer. D9 had several of her artworks on the wall; I was very proud.
S15 went with me also (he didn't want to see her play last week or the art today, but I said pick one, so you can show your sister some support.)
You're a great mother, Karen. Just wanted to tell you that.
Hi Karen, Sounds like the exhibit was fun! I bet D9 was proud to have her art in a real museum! Its great that her brother came too, too bad that her dad couldnt be bothered though.
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I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
The exhibit was wonderful. D9's really loves her art. Her brother was actually supportive re: her art, and was happy since they had food!!!
H emailed her finally Saturday and said sorry he couldn't come (he didn't work that day but I guess had plans with OW) and he was sure they were great. He didn't say love or happy holiday or is there a way for me to see your paintings next week or whatever. Just burns me up that he's asking for primary custody most of the time.
Document. document, document! Stuff like that just allows him to show his true colors. I really don't think any judge in their right mind would think that he would be the best option. Make a great day!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Document. document, document! Stuff like that just allows him to show his true colors. I really don't think any judge in their right mind would think that he would be the best option. Make a great day!
Thanks Kat and Puppy! Today I'm taking D9 to the OT and speech therapist for therapies. I feel horrible b/c I can't afford them anymore. I've been paying all the copays the last 7 months, but without part-time job I can't do it anymore. It's come down to food or therapies. My L emailed H's L a week ago re: the copays and that I don't have the funds for them, and he never responded to the email.
I emailed my L today telling her that I can no longer pay for their therapies until H helps out and/or I can obtain a job. There aren't a lot of jobs out there in my area right now, but I'm still applying to them so hopefully something will work out. I hate feeling like a bad mom (well part of me). Karen
You have been doing everything you possibly can. Is there anyway you can work anything out with the Dr's office while this is being resolved? If anything this should just go to show you what a wonderful parent you are: your husband let your house go, you found another place for you and the kids; you take your kids to nearly all of their appointments(giving H the benefit of the doubt that he may take them to a few), you take them and support them in their creative and extra curricular activities while your H only shows up if it is convenient or will benefit him in some way. You are their rock and their role model.
They adore you and so do we.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Can D's therapist give you extra exercises to do with her until you get the copays worked out? I agree that him blowing these things off shows that hes not as concerned with his kids as he hopes to portray...
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
Thanks, BR! I talked to the therapist and the billing person at the office today and they said I shouldn't worry. Very understanding. I live in a small town with a good amount of people with low budgets, so I'm probably not the first. They said they would let me pay next week no problem, and will bill me. They were totally sweet about it, very nice people.
BTW, D9 talked to H today (a rare phone call from him to see what she was doing she said) and told him I wasn't going to take her to therapy. I had told her we would go and ask them to bill us, and if that didn't work out I planned to just reschedule for next week and she didn't understand I guess. I just wanted her to be prepared in case we had to reschedule b/c autistic kids (at least mine and I think others) do horrible with changes or interruptions like rescheduling. It's majorly upsetting to them.
So then I felt I had to email H and tell him, I am taking her to the therapists but will have to ask them to bill me next week or reschedule. He did not email back with any concern about the financials or concern over her possibly not getting her therapies. His L never emailed back my L in the past week either. My guess is they decided to do nothing in an effort to drag this out and not pay any of their copays or partial as long as possible as by the time we wait for answer from them and set hearing it may be awhile.
From everyone I've talked to copays are usually split between the parents and not one person paying them, esp. when our kids copays are $400 to $500 a month right now because of autism-related expenses.
Saw my L today when I dropped off the kid's evals at her office. She said do you want to set it for hearing re: the copays and I said yes, b/c I can't pay them and she should have them. I do think H just thinks about $$$ rather than his own kids welfare. I'm just a completely different person than my H. Karen
