What a weekend...

[AlexEN]

Wow, S13, thanks for the post... You didn't write too much... You reinforced what I felt like I was seeing in him...

It felt like a glimpse into his real inner mind... and it's interesting that you say anger/rage was your emotion when your H divulged OW...

And, yes, I DO believe the emotions are 10X over "normal". By definition, the highs are higher and the lows are lower, at least as I understand it...

His coping methods, the anger, were so similar to how he acted before his behavior came under control through a combination of meds, diet, and his own sheer will power...

This has been my instinct:

Please allow your son (within reason) to show his emotions, to express his anger and hurt and disappointment in his Mom....Please don't make him keep a lid on what he is feeling otherwise, it will consume him...

... which is why his destruction didn't concern me (except when directed at his siblings) and perhaps why I was so p.o.'ed that W was trying to "logic" him out of his feelings and "flip" things on him...

Thank you for sharing your experiences. I appreciate it...