Separated for 3 weeks now

[BigJohn]

Does anyone have any suggestions for me to get thru this ordeal?

Gardener had to go buy him his very own 2x4 since he hasn't wielded one in his one month here.

P Cater, you might consider showing some evidence of really reading - and actually considering - some of the many responses you've gotten, along with, perhaps - just perhaps - some mindful acknowledgement of and gratitude to the many who took their time and expended their effort in good faith to help you.

I skim and I see thoughtful questions to you, possible ideas for you, tons of been-there-done-that wisdom for you and whenever I do, I just know that the next post you make will be- ignoring the advice that preceeded it - yet again, something like:

'anybody got any advice?'

I feel like I'm watching that classic, original SNL sketch. There's some assertive, forceful knowing reply on one side and then the long, long pause while everyone waits for the inevitable to come from the other side: the low, meek voice that blatantly ignores what was just said and again repeats:

'candygram'

Sheesh. Yes, I know I'm dating myself land-sharkedly, and I know I'm inexplicably using the word "sheesh" lately.

But, sheesh...

Gardener,

Liked your post, especially the candygram reference.

Hey P Cater, you sound completely overwhelmed. Go back and re-read these posts, you've received some good feedback here. Maybe what you need to do is just focus on one or two things to work on right now instead of trying to wrap your arms around it all. Here's a thought: 1. Stop talking to your W right now and give both of you some serious space from each other. 2. Find an outlet to manage your stress besides relying on just the anti-depressants. Do you have a gym membership or somewhere you can go to work out? You mention taking walks. Walking is good, but what about jogging? Whatever it is you've got to find a way to release all that pent up stress.

Good luck to you. And for heaven sakes, please provide those on the boards with more information about yourself. Sheesh!