Glad you guys ordered the book and I think it will be very informative. It was for me and I'm a woman! I thought I was weird but come to find out......that is the way females are!

Thinker, in response to what you said about not being able to compete with her "fantasy" of OM......sadly, you are right. Nobody can compete with that fantasy.....INCLUDING THE OM. That is what you have to remember and in time (that old four letter word...TIME), she will finally see that the OM is not what she dreamed he would be. I have been reading Fighting Fit's beginning thread and it is very good. May help if you all read her explain the POV from a WAW. She was a WAW, then her H was a WAH. Sad story.

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#2 could be added, "...not really.change, anyway. And certainly not permanently (any and all evidence to the contrary)." So their decision to walk away remains valid.


I think that we WAW's "give up" on our spouse ever changing permanently. I know over the years when I would sit my H down to have one of those long talk about how unhappy I was and wanted him to make some changes.....it would last about two days! Then it was right back to the same old stuff. It is exactly Michele describes in her article of the WAW.

The hope I give to you men is the fact that "I" woke up from my fantasy and saw through the fog. So, as long as your W does not M the OM.....there is always a chance. I encourage you to read Fighting Fit's old thread about her description of WAW's.

Later,
Sandi




It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!