It's MY life now!!!........

[Silent Chrleader]

.....Take care of yourself and you'll get some respect from him and he'll probably do the right thing on his own. You don't have to remove that possibility but you need to retain it, make sense? IOW, if he doesn't come thru on his own, you need to be able to force his hand. Take charge of your life b/c no one else will. I hate saying that but it IS important that you accept this.
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No worries, (((25)))! That's why I have a lawyer (insisted on one). I am under no illusions that my H is suddenly such a "great guy". I will do all in my power to protect myself as best I can.

In some ways, it is turning out better for me that we are in bankruptcy too. H's "extra" income will be alotted to me as "maintenance" for the duration of his Chapter 13 (5 years). He told the lawyers he would absolutely rather see me get it than other creditors (my L was very surprised at that attitude.....it's a rare thing in her experience). I will be doing a Ch 13 too as it turns out rather than a Ch 7, but the house I live in will remain in my name (H will have to give up his rights to it in his Ch 13, as I will have to give up my rights to the "dream property). However, my Chapter 13 will only be for 3 years. What this means is that everything will be in writing, and even though it will be a headache to deal with a trustee for 3 years, I will still end up (5 years from now) with my house and only 5-6 years left to pay on it (We did a 15 year mortgage 4 years ago). For that 5 years, H will be making the mortgage payments via "maintenance" as part of his Ch 13. When that 5 years is up, my car and the loan on my retirment account will be done so I will be back to getting full paychecks, so I will have no problem taking over the house payments on my own at that point. Yes, H gets the dream property, which will likely appreciate much better than "my" house, but after the 5 years, he will still owe on the mortage on it for 24 more years. All in all, I have little to complain about.......and not a whole lot to worry about really....... That is a huge load off my mind.

BM, if you're reading this, this is why I keep stressing to talk to both a D lawyer AND a bankruptcy lawyer! You have been married longer than I, don't have a good job like I do, and have a legitimate "handicap" (as does your son)! I really think you have the potential to come out of your sitch much better than you may think.......