I really like the way you are handling things! Now that you hvae set boundaries, make sure you enforce them. He's like a three year old, you know! He'll keep pushing them, just to test them.
You guys feel free to pray for that lightning bolt! I know I have done all I can do, it just took me a long time to find the path I should have taken. Oh well, I am on it now.
Basically, my job is to love and care for my kids, pray for my husband to have some sort of revelation while simultaneously moving forward with life as a separated woman. Coach has referred to the Stockdale Paradox I believe, which says something to the effect of "Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties, and confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be."
So I still allow myself to have the dream that we will one day reconcile, but I pulled my head out of the clouds to make sure I am continuing to live a life without him not just waiting around for him to come home.
That being said, I need to get off of here and start getting the kids ready for bed!
Oh and when I say live life as a separated woman, that doesn't mean dating or any of that. Not for me, anyway. It just means keep working on my own budget based on my current income, setting my own priorities for home improvements, getting involved in activities I enjoy--golfing, running, karate, etc.
Kerry if that is in reference to my golf score, the shameful fact is that my local course is only 9 holes, that was my score for only nine... Roughly averaged 9 strokes per hole. Then again it was my second time golfing after not golfing for two years. Plus I had only golfed a handful of times in the previous five years. Last time I golfed on a semi-regular basis was before I had kids.
Roughly averaged 9 strokes per hole. Then again it was my second time golfing after not golfing for two years. Plus I had only golfed a handful of times in the previous five years. Last time I golfed on a semi-regular basis was before I had kids.