H has stopped for five months now. He had been trying to stop since we met. We separated twice over it b/c of how awful his behavior was. This time he has done much more to support the change of behavior with IC and AA meetings, and church ( he was baptized and confirmed in the spring).
The impact of his sobriety has been great! We don't fight anymore over anything - we talked through things, resolve disagreements, or compromise - none of which happened before. We have fun now, we do things we can actually enjoy, we have more active life and do more things that we both like to do. He was too rigid before and isolated and sometimes assumed the worst about others and situations. Now he enjoys life, enjoys people, is happy and appreciative.
If your H's drinking bothers you I would bring it up and consider it something to look at. I didn't notice the problem for a long time and in the mean time realized that it was the source of our difficulties. I don't know what to say about your own thoughts on drinking, but to me, getting a buzz on everynight is NOT normal. Drinking affects a person's mind to the point where they make poor choices and decisions in all areas of their life. Perhaps this is why he had an A.
