Haven't posted in a while, not really sure where to start. So I guess it seems my wife is no longer going to leave, she has agreed to get back in and try again.
This may be due to the fact that I finally acknowledged the fact that she hates living where we do and I have agreed to move closer to her family, although still about 4 hrs away, better than 12.
Wife's effort seems to be lackluster at times especially in the down times like following an arguement or disagreement. She has told me that she would be willing to be encouraging at these times but so far has not been. She just seems to retreat into her own head with her own thoughts.
We just don't seem to be able to have many conversations with the slightest amount of conflict that can be resolved. We both end up feeling unheard and hurt.
We suck at listening.
On the upside sex has seemed to return to our relationship once or twice a week although we are still in separate beds, which BTW is getting easier to deal with and actually enjoyable.
This does however scare me because I don't really want to get too comfy with this arrangement.
Wife also made a revelation recently saying that she had serious issues with defensiveness when it came to any kind of confrontation, something I had been saying for 7 yrs.
I guess the question I have is this: is she only trying because I have agreed to move? Does it even matter what the reason is that she is trying?
Am I over-analyzing everything here and in the process destroying any real chance of this working?
e 42, Her 34 M 3yrs, T 8yrs D 5 S 3 S 2 ILYBINILWY 02/09 Sleeping in same bed/no intimacy "I,m done" her words: 05/28/09 She's trying again 06/25/09
