It's my birthday today.

My sister sent me a lovely card with a bookmark she had made herself and W bought me a box of chocolates (!) and a card with with affection, W xx written in it. I didn't even react other than say "thank you" and I didn't really care either. She had used the wrapping paper that was around the flowers I bought her when we dicovered she was pregnant.

She told me of another much more expensive gift (a violin) that she had wanted to get for me but that "now wasn't the right time as it's a bad year, maybe if/when things are better between us". It's more important to her to spend her money on flights to Europe.

This latest trip to England is to go and grab another fix of OM even though for the last few weeks he's been saying "it's over, I don't want you and to raise another man's child", "I have a new girlfriend etc". I don't think he knows she plans to visit. And, to be honest I really don't care anymore - life is better when I don't have to deal with her. When I phoned OM he even asked me to take her passports from her so that she "wouldn't compromise my situation here and cause trouble." and because he is "done" and "doesn't want to see her" but I don't know where she's put them - and that's controlling (thoughts anyone?). If I did it, it would be to protect this baby - not so I can keep W for myself. She's hardly a glittering prize.

OM even sent W a long email saying "it's over" and copied me in. But, I just don't care. I want to ensure that this baby is OK as far as I am able and that's it - I know I will do far better than W.


Me: 46
W: 46
T: 23
M: 20
DS12
DD11
DS5

W left: 01/28/08
Discovered OM: 02/26/08
W back for 9 days: 04/08
W returned 05/21/08
EA/PA - 01/08-07/09
W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)