You can't deal with everything at once so putting that on the back burner is a good idea. Don't feel bad about not sending pictures or anything. I too was the one who kept up all of the contact. When I stopped doing that, it was truly a blessing in disguise for me. I always knew that I had issues with MIL and FIL because of how they were while H was growing up and I never paid FIL much mind to begin with, I let H handle him. But I did try to welcome MIL into our lives. That was my mistake. I should have let H handle her completly as well and now I do. He handles her very little but he still won't face what his issues are. I have prepared a letter to her, in the event of D, that I have every intention of sending her. I have witnessed so much and I have every right to let her know just what she has done. I will not share it with her if H and I remain together, but I still will not take a proactive stance in that relationship anymore and H is very aware of that. It just is not good for me.
Yes it is nice to see them pop out. That the person you know is still there somewhere. Just be as patient as you can and protect your heart. Read about the touch and go's versus real reconnection. It is important to be able to see the differences. Yes I too have learned to be able to predict the "unpredictibility".
Your patience will be tested and your faith will grow. This becomes our journey as well.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
