I think you and I both need to sit back and watch the flames. It may take some time but its gonna happen.
Although, it would scare me if OW isn't really thrilled with your D being there. I hope that your H doesn't ever leave your D in the care of OW. I would specify that in your papers somehow. She seems like the type that wouldn't take very good care of her.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!