Being done to me means you have crossed your turn around point (PCTAP) and have passed the point of a reconciliation.
Check-out @Coach, busting out the aireator speak!
To me being "done" means you're no longer willing to invest an iota of work into the process, just as it means that for WAS.
Passing the point of reconciliation is, I think, a different matter. For one, you don't know where that point is ('cause you're not allowed to read WAS's mind). For another, this is a strategic interaction, not a static decision-process where there exists some defined point, R, beyond which the outcome is Not-R. There is no define Failsafe point in the sky.
If I had the time -- Time, it's always Time (that old b*tch) -- I'd do the math and write a game-theoretical analysis of the DB'ing process. I'd do a quick-and-dirty game tree, but the interface is too limited for that (I think).
