are you really GAL, detaching, working on yourself if you are needing a woman/man to make yourself feel better?
From my POV? Absolutely. Getting A Life. Sex is part of that. End of story.
You're over-reaching by a considerable degree here, Coach. "Needing" a woman in the "yee-haw I need some sex" sense of "need" is not the same thing as "needing" a woman in order to define yourself as an autonomous individual.
I can need a dentist, need a doctor, need a new car, need a pizza, need a beer, need a new housekeeper (I do, actually), need some new shorts (I do, actually -- shrunk from a 34 to a 32), need to get out and mow the lawn, need need need.
None of those presumptive "needs" diminishes from my personhood, from my autonomy, from my identity.
There's a lot of this, "Oh, well, you need a woman to feel like a man, like a Big Shot" stuff around here. Bullsh*t. What's the difference between GALing and getting a new (male) friend, with whom you hang out and fart around and watch sports, and a new (female) friend, with whom you hang around and fart around and watch sports and then take a healthy roll in the hay? Apart from the moralistic aspect which (some) may assign to the latter activity, I don't see one.
Oh, well, you're supposed to be DB'ing, being a better you, cleverly constructing that Old Golden Bridge for WAS. Again, I don't see what one has to do with the other.
Well, you can't DB if you're not focused on WAW and focused on another W. But aren't I not supposed to be focused on WAW? Aren't I not supposed to be doing X or Y to "get WAW back?" Aren't I supposed to be moving on?
Well for me -- and I respect those on the other side of the aisle -- moving on includes banging the gong.
