I understand your point OD. I am thinking, are you really GAL, detaching, working on yourself if you are needing a woman/man to make yourself feel better? Aren't you just masking the symptoms with a "exciting" new relationship, wouldn't that just be script? Are you really in a emotionally healthy enough point to start a new relationship? Why can't we be happy with who we are all by ourselves for a little bit? How healthy is the other person if they will date someone who is still married? Just like it takes time to work on reconciling, won't it take time to get your self in order to start dating again? Just like it is a rule of thumb here that it takes one month for each year of marriage to start a marrige anew in a healthy way. I have heard it takes about two years to become emotionally healthy to start dating again post-divorce. No data just rules of thumb. But yes you need to GAL, detach, work on yourself, stand up for yourself, and be a great parent because it matters to you how you handle it. There lies the great irony of DB we all should have been doing it for that reason anyway not to win our spouse back. Being done to me means you have crossed your turn around point (PCTAP) and have passed the point of a reconciliation. That's purely a individual call, no judgement or condemnation from me. So yes you should have the same course of action if your intention has been the same all along. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
