Separated for 3 weeks now

[25yearsmlc]

What did you get out of the DB books? Your expectations are unrealistic in that you think we will "know" what she is going to do and none of us do.

All you can do is control you so that no matter what choices SHE makes, you will be fine. Prepare for that. Learn how to be happy with or without her and you will bring so much more to the table.

But AGAIN, you forgot to answer our questions and get mired downward into a spiral that helps NO ONE.

You are sliding and not stopping yourself. STOP THAT NOW. Tell us some info about what she wants from YOU and what she says she wants for the marriage or divorce, etc.
What does she say to you when you speak? You have to see each other some time if you have a daughter, correct?

That's your chance to reveal your changes but they have to be changes you would make b/c you want TO BE HAPPY YOURSELF.

What would you spend your time doing if not pining for her or drinking? What have you always wondered about but not investigated as an activity? Theater? Auditions? Photography? Classes? Current Event clubs? Scuba?

ALL these things are of interest to me, just for the sake of giving you examples and I'm sure YOU have some or can come up with some. TRY.
AND ANSWER THE QUESTIONS IN THIS POST PLEASE.
j-

PS I don't have near enough info to help you much. That's why the advice here is sparse - b/c you are not telling us enough. BE SPECIFIC...
And your hopelessness can be a self fulfilling prophecy. Don't go there. I have never seen a truly hopeless sitch and have two family members who actually divorced only to remarry their spouses later on....so that happens too.