What a weekend...

[AlexEN]

Appreciate all the kind words about how strong I have been, but as I noted above, I did not stay completely above the fray... Not going to beat myself up, but I slipped up over the weekend, too. I keep moving, and I am confident it is in the right direction, but I did slip up, too. Always easier to see in the rearview mirror... Will post more on the subsequent events later... But, suffice it to say, I do think kids are in a better place than they were Friday.

Oh, and Kalni, I have had both of these types of conversations...

If you feel your wife is not letting the kids express themselves, tell her. Take her aside,in privacy and tell her she is responsible for how the kids will deal with this and you that you wont take her bailing out, looking after her own a$$ while the kids are falling apart. What is going on between you is another story adn SHE is NOT the focus.
And Alex, be honest with your kids and show your feelings also. My experience was that that made them feel they could express their feelings as well. At least to me.