what are your 3 favorite things to do around town besides going to the gym? write them down, and you can write down more if you come up with something else. Once you've done that you should have your next 5 to 9 days planned out doing what you enjoy. you'll still have thoughts of your W and M pop in your head while you're doing those things, but you need a distraction for now.
i don't think the lunch thing was horrible, but if you're trying to go dark on her, you need to get the heck outta there once it's over. even if you don't have anywhere specific to go, get up and announce you have plans and enjoyed the lunch, but you gotta get going. be a little more mysterious.
i think you understand already that a guy sitting at home feeling sorry for himself probably isn't attractive to any woman. so don't be that guy then.
you're doing good, man. don't give up.
oh and there are many occurances of WAW coming home. but they didn't come home until they really started to believe they were losing or already lost their H's. knowing that shouldn't be what gives you hope, everyones sitch is different. your hope should come from you, inside. Once you understand you'll make it without your W just fine, she might begin to come around. That's where your hope should be coming from for now.
