Cat, I am glad someone else understands what I feel about my in-laws! The anger towards them is something I have been trying to work through but frankly am too tired right now - just trying to keep my kids protected as much as possible and trying to daily forgive/keep the anger down towards my H so they may have to be put on the back burner for a bit anyway. I have always been the one to keep them posted and send pics of the kids but haven't for a long time. I just don't have it in me right now. The thing is, I really don't think they have a CLUE about what is going on with our family right now.
I have known my husband has carried hurts from his childhood for about as long as I have known him but never expected them to eventually play out in this way! It makes sense, though, with what I know he is hurt about. He is trying to find that validation he has always looked for.
It has been nice to see glimpses of the man I know (and still believe is in there somewhere) but then he disappears for awhile which is SO hard. His "unpredictability" has become predictable though. I know that after he spends extended time with the family or peeks out his head he WILL "run" for at least a couple days where he is around as little as possible and is shut down.
It is interesting that your son is the one who cried MLC. I'm sure it is helpful for him to know what is going on and be able to understand that. My kids are younger and just know things aren't the same right now.
I try to keep the faith. I haven't personally witnessed what I would call "miracles" in my life up until now and am still waiting for my "big" miracle but lately have seen way too many "little" miracles to consider them coincidences which helps keep me going.:) It confirms that no matter what happens, God is listening.
