Darkness Descends ... (accidentally posted too early above)

Sandi told me that digging around trying to get details on OM's criminal record in preparation for a possible restraining oder (if she leaves) would send W straight to him and she was right. She confronted me about it and was angry as I had mentioned earlier, but over the weekend I found out that she went straight to OM at the same time and has been talking to him since about the whole thing. She had figured it out by snooping in my email and found a message I sent to a law enforcement friend asking him if he could get information.

She immediately contacted OM and said that this friend might be doing something illegal to get his criminal records, so watch out, etc etc.

So, Sandi, you are right - I gave her and OM something to work on together. She has started digging up info from my email in general it appears. She talked about how she was gathering information about whether or not I was monitoring her because it could be against the law, considered an invasion of privacy, etc etc. She also mentioned that some of the accusing text messages I have sent her over the months could be considered mental abuse and that she wishes she would have saved them. I think her IC and the OM are the ones giving her these ideas. I need to be careful. She may be trying to build up some sort of case to throw me out of our house.

We had a long R talk yesterday - not good. She is emotionally invested enough to have these conversations which is interesting, but she sat there for about an hour arguing with me about why M can't work (her biggest justification is that it was bad before, so it can bever be good) and more denials about her having an EA but that she can talk to who she wants - what a mess.

The sad thing for me about all this was that I feel like I had really turned a corner recently and was feeling more detached since I finally 'got it' that I had no power over her actions, and had dropped my interest in pursuing anything regarding OM, etc. or trying to prove EA activity any longer.


ME/XW:47
S21, D19, S15, S14
M:21 T:26
W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12
W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline