You are getting good advice and it's nice to see someone listen and give DBing a fair shake before freaking out or panicking. As Pup says though, just b/c you make progress-don't let up on what works. It's so easy to reconcile TOO early and then the 2nd round of crisis comes and there is no energy to DB and it ALL ends...whereas if the couple had taken things more slowly and checked their hearts out more and really owned their issues, it might have succeeded. There is such a thing as rushing it.
My only note is that your w sounds terribly confused and as you say, very immature. I too married young. But she's acting on what we all felt, which is that we missed out on something by marrying young. You don't have those doubts as you are 10 years older than she is. But is she getting some c? I sure hope so.
BTW, I have two family members who div only to remarry their exes later on. As in, 5 years later. The 2nd time around was indeed better. I say this b/c I see your w as really needing some "growth" time and I don't know if you should hang around waiting BUT I also am with Sandi on the dating thing...
It seems dishonest and gamey. And if you do date, you better be careful with another woman's heart. It's also a risk, like anything. But if you are doing something that gets results, which you ARE (her telling you she misses you IS progress) then keep that up. You can't argue that nothing is working.
It is working. Now you have to decide how YOU feel.... j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
