Thanks for posting to me. It boggles my mind how some people are able to move on so easily after separation or divorce. I just can't seem to get over it and not sure I ever will either.
I'm sorry that your H wants to move forward with the D. My H has not mentioned doing anything of the sort after 3 years, so I can't say I know how it feels. I do sometimes wish that he would be man enough to file, if he knows that he will never return. In some ways, it would be better than keeping me hoping against all hope that he might come back. I've realized through all of this that once the MLC and destruction has started, it really doesn't matter what they do - it sucks no matter what. We just have to go along with their craziness and minimize the damage to our children.
Believe me, I understand feeling pathetic. The man wants nothing to do with me, yet I still fantasize about a future with him. But even now, as I really consider moving forward without him, I wonder if I will ever look back and regret the time I spent trying to save the M and grieving over what was lost. Honestly, I don't think there's any other way that would have been better for me. It's a process we have to go through and hopefully be strong enough to make it through.
