The LBS is in a state of hurt confused emotions. If he/she acts out of "that" truth, then everything that could go wrong, will go wrong. Of course acting "as if" may feel fake b/c one's emotions are not on the same wave as the actions, but the point is to "act" like you need to be acting and eventually the feelings will catch up. Few LBS "feel" like detaching from their WAS. They want to "cling" for dear life, but we know that is the worse action for them, so we advise them to detach. Do they want to? No! Do they feel they are being counter-productive? Probably! Does it work? YES!
The reason I jumped on this subject was not to lash out at Antlers (if it sounded like I did) b/c I have read enough of his posts that I thought he was pretty sound in DBing. He has given great advice to Newcomers! The statement I read concerned me b/c I've read things like that from other posters in the past and I wanted to nip it in the bud if there was some confusion about it. I wondered if something had been said to get him turned around and questioning DB. Anyway, Antlers has assured me that I misunderstood what "he" said about it. However, if there are any others reading this that may doubt that the DB techniques are not completely honest, then I would like to discuss it farther with them and they can come to my thread on the "Piecing" forum at Sandi's Place. I think everyone here agrees on the foundation DB is built upon.
Thanks, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
