Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

Thanks guys. I had time to actually think last night. I now realize he was baiting me with the text and I gave in.

I woke up feeling a bit better emotionally. The last week has been really hard. H called this morning, saying he wanted to leave early and I said that was fine. H started on the separation, indicating he should move out since he's the "bad guy". I indicated I never said that. H went on to say that I've said he needs C, is in a MLC and having an affair. I just listened and didn't bite. H then said he volunteered for a job in FL last night. H said he can't stand being at his work anymore. Once again, I didn't say much, just listened. H is doing his best to push me away so I am going to try my best to detach (lovingly).

As far as the sex thing goes, I am not at the point I can say no, not til the IA/EA stops, so I have not. If I don't want to or feeling conflicted at the time he wants to, I just tell him so. Whether right or wrong, I am just not ready to close that door yet. If I get to the point I can no longer be with him, I will tell him so.