Hey?!? Who Locked Up My Mojo?

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In the meantime, I have to live. And for me part of living -- viz, @antlers: "if it won't make you feel bad later on down the line for breaking your marriage vows" -- is enjoying a healthy sex life. I don't know if it will make me feel bad later on down the line. What I do know is that I feel like a person who is getting a divorce -- not like a person who happens to be in a one-sided marriage. Those are two discrete concepts for me -- maybe not for you, and if so I applaud that.

But for me sex is part of the normal range of normal human behaviors. It's not something "reserved" for marriage. It's what humans are programmed to do. And, in most cases, it's what humans like to do. I know I certainly like to do it, though that has been far more the case in my imagination than in my experience since the war.

And with respect to it being a good idea "later," viz @Gypsy, I have no doubt it will be a good idea later. But it also happens to be the case that it is a good opportunity now,

Didn't Mrs. SP express a similar mindset when she dropped the bomb on you?

What I mean about having something in common with her is that as she was making the run up to drop the bomb/leave, she was observing how her H was not there for her, not physical with her, checked out of her life in many ways...so, she went elsewhere. You now observe the same in her, and you're going elsewhere. Just pointing out a similarity I see. You also are a walk away. She just did it first.