Those deleted posts were in reference to your request for how to get in contact with rcr. A website for her had been posted. If you can contact me offthisboard I might have what you're looking for.
I am so glad you are in control of your money. IMO, you should continue taking steps to allow your H to see how his life would be without you in it. I know that doesn't follow what Chuck says, but amd you have been here about as long as I have. While YOU have grown so much stronger your H continues to flop around and walk in and out of your life however he pleases.
Why in the world does he have to go to your house when you're not there to watch your tv? That says to me that he comes for the convenience of your house and not to see you. Set some boundaries. Since he wants to visit the house with or without you, why not eliminate the house from his list of pleasures? He can see you at the local coffee shop. Keep stirring the pot, but of course you have to be ready for whatever the consequences will be. But look what happened when you left town without clueing him in!
I didn't see you wave but that might have been because I was traveling too. BTW, when is that BBQ you are having us all over for?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
