Sometimes it takes that anger to look at the things that need looking at.
I usually advise NOT making any decisions out of anger or emotion. And I'm sticking to it here. Take some time to process this for what it is before you make any permanent decisions regarding what MAY happen down the road.
Turn this around for a minute.....All that anger, and emotion that you felt with this......That is how SHE feels about you during this time....
Now you may understand why she wants to run away. These things may be true...or not. But nonetheless, that is what they are RIGHT NOW.
If you had a guarantee, that after a year or two, that this would turn around for you and her.....How would your life be different right now....What things would you want for you and your children ?
I'm not telling you what YOU should do here....I just want you to be sure before you burn that bridge.
Deal with what needs dealing with, and let the rest go for now....
You CAN do this my friend.
What is your list of things that YOU want to address ?
How can you make this boundry about something else instead of a " I don't want to pay your cell bill so that you can text your friend" ?
Cause you already told her that you would, and just cause you snooped, you changed your decision. That could be a little manipulative if she knew that was the reason.
I'm NOT telling you to pay it, I'm just asking how you can take the focus off the real reason that you feel that way, and turn it into something that is affecting you.
