I have worked with many couples over the years and I have seen the value of holding on to a civil/friendly relationship of some sort with your spouse as that helps keep the door open for coming back compared to having a disconnected or angry relationship.
I agree with this, and do want to clarify what I was saying, Jman. I'm NOT saying not to be "civil" or "friend-LY". I'm saying that I've personally never seen "being their BEST friend" or the "Mr. Nice Guy" thing work in bringing back a wayward spouse.
But just to be clear, I do NOT advocate being as ass, or anything other than civil and courteous. It's important to the future relationship.
