I was supposed to get divorced tomorrow - part 2

[1853dave]

Had a great weekend with the kids...and some friendly interaction with the W. She was cooperative when we were negotiating time with the kids (as was I). Nothing bad to report.

Since I had a 3 day weekend, I asked W Friday morning if she wanted to go for a walk up to the coffee shop this weekend. She said, "I'll see - it depends on what I get done today." Translation: "Probably no!" Hmmm... We went a couple of times before, and had a nice time both times (she even said so). So, I didn't ask her about it any more this weekend, and she didn't bring it up either.

Still haven't had any feedback from the forun regarding The Love Dare, or speaking in the Five Love Languages. Any thoughts on how to do this while keeping within the DB principles?

I am trying to apply what I can....but trying not to overstep any boundaries. Giving positive feedback, complimenting (sincerely, btw); small kind gestures (when kids last spent the night, I sent them home with fresh washed clothes in their suitcase, since the washing machine at home is on the blink) - stuff like that.

I suppose any of that could be perceived as pursuing. Just how much can a person safely do? The Love Dare has you do a number of kind gestures which would seem to go against the DBer's creed.

I suppose it is just a matter of trying things out and monitoring the results. Anyone else have thoughts on this? What seems to work for you?